Meaning of virginity
The comprehensible definition of virginity is “never having had sex”. Virginity is not just only about penis-vagina intercourse. It also includes people like LGBT who also loose virginity during oral or anal sex. But as a consequence of some of the illogical social trends and culture, virginity has lost its genuine meaning and has only been limited to girls and women. The term “virgin” refers to a celibate or incorrupt maiden girl who never had sexual (consensual) intercourse with a man.
What does it mean to be a virgin?
But, is this concept that intelligible? The answer is no. It’s not as easy as ABC. Sex is something acknowledged by different people adversely, and so is virginity. The precision of virginity is bewildering, and it completely dwell on how an individual accepts it .Accepting the fact logically makes a bond stronger, while assuming it in a wrong sense is enough to perish a relationship.
Virginity of man is never taken into consideration, because of the patriarchal society, where we live in. Whatever a man decides is the right decision. This sort of dominance misleads to objectification of women, which is very prominent in our society. Therefore the virginity of men barely matters.
Most of the people lives with the misconception by correlating the presence/absence of hymen in girls/women with virginity, which doesn’t make any sense at all.
What’s a hymen and what is the misconception associated with it?
Basically, a hymen is a thin, fleshy tissue that is present at the opening of the vagina. Many hesitations are associated with this. A hymen often gets torn during the first coitus (intercourse). However, it’s not the case. It can also be torn due to an accident, insertion of sanitary products like tampons, and active participation in sports like gymnastics, cycling, etc.
In most of the cases, the opening of a hymen is large enough for excreting the period blood to get released. And in other cases, some are born with a very thin layer of hymen tissue which seems as if a hymen is absent in their case. Factually, the presence or absence of a hymen can never be considered as a reliable indicator of virginity.
In many parts of the world, virginity tests are still practiced, which includes 2 fingers test or bloodstain test. These myths exist even today. It was in the year 2013 when the Indian government precluded the two fingers test.
The virginity test that is carried out by the observation of hymen breakage or the tightness of vaginal wall is undoubtedly invalid and extremely nuisance. Such tests do nothing but question the purity of a woman, which disintegrates her self-esteem and social status. Despite this harsh reality, these activities are still acknowledged and practiced widely by some orthodox societies.
If anyone has lost virginity, the only option to know it is by telling the truth. And after knowing the fact, an individual instead of judging should appreciate their partners and cooperate.
Like many other pre-existing social evils, virginity is also a part of the list. One must never dare to put forward such a question as it may hurt someone’s personal sentiment and destroy their reputation in seconds.
Virginity can never be a means to judge someone’s dignity because that objectifies a living human with emotions like a used non-living human. It’s a social stigma that exists because of a lack of information and stereotype objectifying rules of society.
It’s rightly said by Albert Einstein “The world will not be destroyed by those who do evil, but by those who watch them without doing anything”.
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